A perfect weekend with the love of your life and a perfectly romantic film, may not be all that perfect at all. According to a study, romantic films ruin lives of lovers rather than actually improving them.
Movies like Bridget Jones's Diary and Notting Hill give lovers the idea of unrealistic love and big expectations from real-life relationships. Fictious happy ending, improbable plots and faux philosophy are to be blamed for disappointments caused when such aspects do not occur as per expectations.
Such films install a warped sense of the "perfect" relationship within society, leading to high expectations from relationships. The idea of falling in love is projected with simplicity, making it effortless. For their study, the team atHeriot Watt University in Edinburgh
Movies like Bridget Jones's Diary and Notting Hill give lovers the idea of unrealistic love and big expectations from real-life relationships. Fictious happy ending, improbable plots and faux philosophy are to be blamed for disappointments caused when such aspects do not occur as per expectations.
Such films install a warped sense of the "perfect" relationship within society, leading to high expectations from relationships. The idea of falling in love is projected with simplicity, making it effortless. For their study, the team at
They went on to ask hundreds of people to fill out a questionnaire to describe their beliefs and expectations when it came to relationships. The psychologists found that fans of films such as 'You''ve Got Mail', 'The Wedding Planner' and 'While You Were Sleeping', often fail to communicate with their partners effectively, with many holding the view that if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you needing to tell them.
"Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it," the Telegraph quoted Dr Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist who led the research, as saying.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people''s minds. The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise," he added.
The expert added: "We all want to be successful in our relationships. We want to be the special one and meet the special one. Unfortunately people tend to believe theHollywood idea of a perfect relationship. "That is just unrealistic. People feel if their relationship is not like a Hollywood film then it is not any good."
So, in case you are heading for that candy-floss romance, take a detour and rather spend some time trying to understand each other, 'really'!
"Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it," the Telegraph quoted Dr Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist who led the research, as saying.
"We now have some emerging evidence that suggests popular media play a role in perpetuating these ideas in people''s minds. The problem is that while most of us know that the idea of a perfect relationship is unrealistic, some of us are still more influenced by media portrayals than we realise," he added.
The expert added: "We all want to be successful in our relationships. We want to be the special one and meet the special one. Unfortunately people tend to believe the
So, in case you are heading for that candy-floss romance, take a detour and rather spend some time trying to understand each other, 'really'!
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